Quote from: Risso on April 14, 2016, 09:23:27 PMQuote from: Villa in Denmark on April 14, 2016, 08:07:52 PMQuote from: Newby on April 14, 2016, 07:00:19 PMI wonder if he is ill, like depressed? Cue the jokes or sarky comments!!Not impossible. A good deal of his demeanour and approach to things these days, at least superficially good tickets a few boxes.It's about the only explanation that would be palatable, as all of the others tend to revolve around various degrees of self aggrandising arsehole.It's impossible to say, but from the pictures of him out and about in London and Dubai, I would hazard a guess that that isn't the reason. He just enjoys the trappings of being a multi-millionaire footballer, and doesn't want to put any effort in, as his contract makes sure he's paid handsomely whether he does or not. I don't think for one minute he has depression, but I can tell you from bitter personal experience that people who are depressed are capable of acting normally and laughing and smiling right up to the point they kill themselves. I have dealt with this more times than I care to remember in a professional capacity. Do not underestimate the power of depression and do not think it has a fat lot to do with what what you or I would think of as being 'sad', let alone appearing to be so.
Quote from: Villa in Denmark on April 14, 2016, 08:07:52 PMQuote from: Newby on April 14, 2016, 07:00:19 PMI wonder if he is ill, like depressed? Cue the jokes or sarky comments!!Not impossible. A good deal of his demeanour and approach to things these days, at least superficially good tickets a few boxes.It's about the only explanation that would be palatable, as all of the others tend to revolve around various degrees of self aggrandising arsehole.It's impossible to say, but from the pictures of him out and about in London and Dubai, I would hazard a guess that that isn't the reason. He just enjoys the trappings of being a multi-millionaire footballer, and doesn't want to put any effort in, as his contract makes sure he's paid handsomely whether he does or not.
Quote from: Newby on April 14, 2016, 07:00:19 PMI wonder if he is ill, like depressed? Cue the jokes or sarky comments!!Not impossible. A good deal of his demeanour and approach to things these days, at least superficially good tickets a few boxes.It's about the only explanation that would be palatable, as all of the others tend to revolve around various degrees of self aggrandising arsehole.
I wonder if he is ill, like depressed? Cue the jokes or sarky comments!!
Depression strikes those who are vulnerable to it just as cancer or other illnesses do. *cliche alert* Churchill managed to cope with overwhelming pain and misery/slings and arrows whilst suffering from depression. May the good Lord forgive me for saying anything positive about a Tory. My professional experience over three decades has convinced me there is no correlation between depression and resilience/courage/strength of character etc.
Depression is a very real and a very serious illness but in my experience, and I lost a lifelong friend to suicide two weeks ago, it strikes those vulnerable to it. The mental make up of some people gives them the ability to endure overwhelming pain and misery. Others crumble under "lesser" loads.I once went to visit my business partner in recovery in a psychiatric hospital. He related that he had broken down, weeping and sobbing brokenheartedly on his doorstep because he could not get his Yale key in the lock.The lucky ones among us are better equipped to cope with the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune.
Quote from: mike on April 15, 2016, 04:29:19 PMQuote from: Risso on April 14, 2016, 09:23:27 PMQuote from: Villa in Denmark on April 14, 2016, 08:07:52 PMQuote from: Newby on April 14, 2016, 07:00:19 PMI wonder if he is ill, like depressed? Cue the jokes or sarky comments!!Not impossible. A good deal of his demeanour and approach to things these days, at least superficially good tickets a few boxes.It's about the only explanation that would be palatable, as all of the others tend to revolve around various degrees of self aggrandising arsehole.It's impossible to say, but from the pictures of him out and about in London and Dubai, I would hazard a guess that that isn't the reason. He just enjoys the trappings of being a multi-millionaire footballer, and doesn't want to put any effort in, as his contract makes sure he's paid handsomely whether he does or not. I don't think for one minute he has depression, but I can tell you from bitter personal experience that people who are depressed are capable of acting normally and laughing and smiling right up to the point they kill themselves. I have dealt with this more times than I care to remember in a professional capacity. Do not underestimate the power of depression and do not think it has a fat lot to do with what what you or I would think of as being 'sad', let alone appearing to be so.You're making an awful lot of assumptions there Mike. I'm fully aware the depression is more than feeling a bit down. I also know that it's a serious illness and shouldn't be used as an excuse to exonerate an arse like Agbnlahor when there's no way of saying that that's the problem.
Quote from: Risso on April 16, 2016, 07:02:22 AMQuote from: mike on April 15, 2016, 04:29:19 PMQuote from: Risso on April 14, 2016, 09:23:27 PMQuote from: Villa in Denmark on April 14, 2016, 08:07:52 PMQuote from: Newby on April 14, 2016, 07:00:19 PMI wonder if he is ill, like depressed? Cue the jokes or sarky comments!!Not impossible. A good deal of his demeanour and approach to things these days, at least superficially good tickets a few boxes.It's about the only explanation that would be palatable, as all of the others tend to revolve around various degrees of self aggrandising arsehole.It's impossible to say, but from the pictures of him out and about in London and Dubai, I would hazard a guess that that isn't the reason. He just enjoys the trappings of being a multi-millionaire footballer, and doesn't want to put any effort in, as his contract makes sure he's paid handsomely whether he does or not. I don't think for one minute he has depression, but I can tell you from bitter personal experience that people who are depressed are capable of acting normally and laughing and smiling right up to the point they kill themselves. I have dealt with this more times than I care to remember in a professional capacity. Do not underestimate the power of depression and do not think it has a fat lot to do with what what you or I would think of as being 'sad', let alone appearing to be so.You're making an awful lot of assumptions there Mike. I'm fully aware the depression is more than feeling a bit down. I also know that it's a serious illness and shouldn't be used as an excuse to exonerate an arse like Agbnlahor when there's no way of saying that that's the problem. The original question was could he be suffering from depression.My answer, which appears to have kicked the whole debate off, was that it's not impossible, as a a good deal of his behaviour ticks some of the boxes.Even the whole Dubai thing could fit, depending on the background to the decision. Running away from your problems because you can't face can be another facet of the illness. And that's part of the problem, it's rarely a clean cut diagnosis based on one specific behavioural trait, but a collage built up from many angles, where the intent can be as important as the action. Even The Hamilton Scale Test, which is still the primary screening for anyone suspected of suffering despite being subject to various criticisms, looks at between 17 and 29 behavioural cues.Depressives are also notoriously good at hiding the complete picture and thereby an early diagnosis. In hindsight my psychiatrist thinks that I had an undiagnosed depression for the best part of 20 years before I finally cracked 6 years ago.
Quote from: brian green on April 16, 2016, 07:23:24 AMDepression is a very real and a very serious illness but in my experience, and I lost a lifelong friend to suicide two weeks ago, it strikes those vulnerable to it. The mental make up of some people gives them the ability to endure overwhelming pain and misery. Others crumble under "lesser" loads.I once went to visit my business partner in recovery in a psychiatric hospital. He related that he had broken down, weeping and sobbing brokenheartedly on his doorstep because he could not get his Yale key in the lock.The lucky ones among us are better equipped to cope with the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune.Brian you are correct. However im not sure where this Gabby has depression idea has come from. Where is the evidence? I think he just cant be bothered anymore. Amazing he has gone from hero to zero in about 3 years. Unfortunately for him when he is being discussed in 10 years time it will be the current bad times that are remembered.