I my Mum died when I was 15 and I have scant memories of her (sadly) but my Dad passed when I was in my late 40s, and I have a virtual Dad that I am deeply aware of, treasuring all the positive times and skipping over the few bad ones (when I was a child he threatened that if I started talking with a Brummie accent he'd beat me).
All that whiffle is meant to say that you'll sort the good from bad times. Just a matter of when. Honest.