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Heroes & Villains => Heroes Discussion => Topic started by: philsheard on December 09, 2010, 08:37:05 PM
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my last missus had just walked out on me because she was fed up with me stopping her lavish spending on my MBNA credit card. I had to though as she kept buying overpriced rubbish that I couldn't get rid of at the car boot sale I went to twice a year.
Then when I was out one night looking to get back on the horse I bumped into a girl who I remembered from school. She had gone out with one of the boys in my class who thought he was the best in the class at everything and she was out of my league at that time. But she hadn't aged very well. She'd been abroad in the sun and caught a bit of colour and she began flirting with me. There was probably someone out there who was younger and better looking but I couldn't be arsed searching and getting into scraps anymore trying to steal other blokes women. Anyway, one thing led to another and before I knew it she had moved in with me and things were going ok although she was a bit clumsy and had a tendency to break things I owned, although some of them were the dross my ex had bought which I wasn't too bothered about.
I was put out at first when she mentioned her ex on our first date and how much she still thought of him. I let it go as I thought she might grow to love me more and be a good match. However, things didn't improve, in fact they got worse, particularly in bed where she failed to inspire me. She had also continued to regularly refer to how much she had enjoyed being with her ex when they were together.
I even caught her touching an old photo of him and as she knew I was watching that really got me angry. It was like she was deliberately rubbing my nose in it. Then when I was at work one day and on my lunch I saw her out and about. She must have known I was there but instead she blanked me and waved to her ex across the street. Now that really wound me up. Then later that night when we were in the pub with friends she mentioned in front of everyone how nice it had been to see him, how she didn't mind being second best to him now as he would always be her favourite. When we got home I demanded an apology but she refused to give one explaining how her time with him had made her a better person and that I would benefit from this in the long run.
I am unsure we will last the distance, my heart tells me to get rid but my head is telling me to stick at it, things will improve with time and might turn out to be really good. Maybe I should stick it out in the hope things improve but something tells me it won't.
Should I dump her?
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Not sure... My personal opinion is that you should give her more time. She might be great with your kids and when a few possessions get mended things will get better.
If it hasn't improved in two or three months or so I think you should look at the situation again and get rid.
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Should I dump her?
Does she swallow?
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I think we should keep Houlier till the end of the season!
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Nice allegory Phil. Got me going. If you could have worked in a favourite song not heard for a long time and a quickly scrawled message of undying love it would have really hit the spot.
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This is the place for you
http://www.heroesandvillains.info/forumv3/index.php?topic=40053.0
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Brian not that talented musically......and looks like I got beat in the race by supertom.
fuck it think I'll boot her out sunday morning.
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16/100
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That gives her all of Saturday night to beg and grovel. Do it at about five o'clock on Saturday the bitch.
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do a paul daniels then dump her.
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thats quality mate, lol, if not now march should be when you review it again
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Can she play at left back?
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16/100
Have a heart mate.
If nothing the thought of G-Hou failing to impress a new lover between the sheets will keep you, er, from getting too excited too soon next time one of your debauched nights out in London ends on top of a nice lass from Tooting.
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Feel like I've been watching the bold and the beautiful. On a serious note, be honest tell her you don't think she's over her ex and come back when she's ready, go and have a bit of fun (pref not on her doorstep) and wait for the phone to ring.
Good Luck.
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MBNA eh, now you're talking.
Ah, the memories - it was all about credit ratings and marketing, plastic designs and affinity brands - not round leather balls and £5 million a year employees who aren't worth £30k a year.
All the best on the female front.
Paul.
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Don't wait until she spends all what remains of your MBNA credit card on fake french perfume.
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I feel for you Phil but bear in mind you last girlfriend left you with a dose, so it was never going to be a great new relationship on day one.
Keep taking the pills and when you have a clean bill of health, see what she's like.
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Maybe you should point out to her that the ex spent the last 6 months of your relationship flirting outrageously with the same bloke, but was thrown over for a plain girl from fulham and has recently been turned down by a pig-ugly geordie.....
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Give her 'til the weekend, but if she wants to dress up as Baggy Bird and wants you to shout 'Boing Boing' on every stroke, then kick her out.
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Stick with her for now. Come May 22 you might be relying on her close relationship with her ex.
More importantly, what's your ex up to at the moment? Does she ever get in touch to see how the kids are doing?
And when's she coming back to take that giant dildo she left you with?
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I'd be tempted to wait and see if she has any friends who fancy getting involved. Even better if you have an audience!
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Be gentle with her - she'll have another heart attack if you score.
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Should I dump her?
Kick her to the curb, like a dirty dog.
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Great analogy, does make you think about weather Gerrard is the man or not reading this.
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YES!
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Great analogy, does make you think about weather Gerrard is the man or not reading this.
No, Gerard's the woman in this - keep up!
He, sorry she, has moved in with Phil, whose ex pissed off and left him.
They're living in the house Phil and his ex bought off that dirty old man. You know, the one who wrote his name on the extension... and had string of lovers come and go over the years. There was that Eastern European bird... the one who left and then came back... the big fat one with all the jewellery... the tasty little one with the sexy walk... the flash bird who spent a fortune on a number plate... and finally that Irish Dol.
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Absolute quality Phil. Totally know the feeling.
My first bird back in '81 was ace, always consistent she became the best bird in England, the very next year she was the best bird in Europe! I thought all birds were like this.
Then one by one they all flattered to decieve.
One bird had a great comb over and was really exciting...on one glorious day in August we went back to her old house in Sheffield...'Hillsborough' or something and after the first part of the day being shit we turned the day round and it ended up being fantastic!
Then she went (and was later labelled a racist for some reason and never seen again)
Another bird I'd seen many years previous... she came back....one sunny day towards May we were having a shit time at ours with some guests from Coventry....but then we turned things around on them, the Angel sang and they disappeared!
Take that Mer - son I remember saying as I went home.
Yep, there have been a few, the current one sounds a bit like yours, ie, has shown signs of being in love with another geezer she once had a fling with from the North West.
She's having guests over this week end from the black country area...I hope she kicks the sh1t out of them or otherwise I can see me falling out of love again.........
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I would get a female lodger someone who's seen a bit of the world and tell her that it's a threesome or nothing. Tell her there are better looking women in the bin down the road and she should stop dipping into the past. Tell her there are bigger fish in the pool.
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I'm not advocating violence but if she doesn't start behaving like a girlfriend should by giving you her all, pandering to your needs and shows you the love you deserve then boot her up the arse and show her the door.
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Maybe you should point out to her that the ex spent the last 6 months of your relationship flirting outrageously with the same bloke, but was thrown over for a plain girl from fulham and has recently been turned down by a pig-ugly geordie.....
Blimey..are things that bad?
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It could be worse, I know someone whose taken up with a right munter in Newcastle.
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my last missus had just walked out on me because she was fed up with me stopping her lavish spending on my MBNA credit card. I had to though as she kept buying overpriced rubbish that I couldn't get rid of at the car boot sale I went to twice a year.
Then when I was out one night looking to get back on the horse I bumped into a girl who I remembered from school. She had gone out with one of the boys in my class who thought he was the best in the class at everything and she was out of my league at that time. But she hadn't aged very well. She'd been abroad in the sun and caught a bit of colour and she began flirting with me. There was probably someone out there who was younger and better looking but I couldn't be arsed searching and getting into scraps anymore trying to steal other blokes women. Anyway, one thing led to another and before I knew it she had moved in with me and things were going ok although she was a bit clumsy and had a tendency to break things I owned, although some of them were the dross my ex had bought which I wasn't too bothered about.
I was put out at first when she mentioned her ex on our first date and how much she still thought of him. I let it go as I thought she might grow to love me more and be a good match. However, things didn't improve, in fact they got worse, particularly in bed where she failed to inspire me. She had also continued to regularly refer to how much she had enjoyed being with her ex when they were together.
I even caught her touching an old photo of him and as she knew I was watching that really got me angry. It was like she was deliberately rubbing my nose in it. Then when I was at work one day and on my lunch I saw her out and about. She must have known I was there but instead she blanked me and waved to her ex across the street. Now that really wound me up. Then later that night when we were in the pub with friends she mentioned in front of everyone how nice it had been to see him, how she didn't mind being second best to him now as he would always be her favourite. When we got home I demanded an apology but she refused to give one explaining how her time with him had made her a better person and that I would benefit from this in the long run.
I am unsure we will last the distance, my heart tells me to get rid but my head is telling me to stick at it, things will improve with time and might turn out to be really good. Maybe I should stick it out in the hope things improve but something tells me it won't.
Should I dump her?
ABSOLUTE QUALITY !! I SAY LETS SEE HOW WE GET ON ON SATURDAY AND THEN YOU CAN DECIDE THEN :-)
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If she performs well on saturday then keep her.
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I say give it time thing's will work out you are just going through a rocky period in the relationship.
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Good post! Thought provoking.
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That would have been perfect for ending it with the girlfriend before his previous one.
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Could try taking her doggin and see if someone you know might be willing to take her off you
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been a weird day today guys, she keeps telling me how committed she is and that i must believe her, I think she is worried I am going to bin her. Maybe things are looking up....
.....then again maybe not! I've just discovered she's broken my flat screen tv leaving me with the old box one up in the spare room that hasn't been used in a while. Could be a quiet day on Saturday.
And then she goes and knackers my xbox. I had only just started getting back into playing that after my ex banished it to the cupboard for about a year because she didn't like it.
(Bob, any increase on 16?)
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I think you girlfriend is not worried as she knows you can not afford to bin her just yet unless that is you get nothing between now and Xmas. If she does not bring you glad tidings by Xmas than you need to have a serious look. FFS you wouldn't trust her to buy nice presents for your birthday in January would you?
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Give her a Yellow and a stern talking to, give it the "no more" hand gesture like top ref's do, let her know her card's been marked and anymore it'll be an early bath
And start warming a sub up, if you get mt drift....
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No point in dumping her this side of Christmas - she's probably got your presents sorted. Clear out the rest of your ex's crap as well and buy the current missus something nice in the January sales.
Don't be too harsh on her mate I'm sure she didn't mean to disrespect you in public besides I've heard she's cooking a feast for 40,000 today with all the trimmings to make up for it - Bannan steaks with Agbonlahor sauce!
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Whatever the rights and wrongs of you deciding to cut up her MBNA card (I heard you were asking her to keep up with the Joneses, who gave theirs a Platinum card), you've gone to shit since the last one left. You and the new bird need to get yourselves sorted quickly or you'll find yourself having to sell the lot whilst moving out of the 5 bedroom exec and back onto the council estate. ;-)
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Look on the bright side, at least your new girlfriend doesn't insist you wear flares and a ski jumper.
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I am sorry that you have not had a peaceful and enjoyable christmas. You may think that it's because your new girl is useless however I think you need to take a good look at your wardrobe. You are carrying lot of stuff that just does not suit her style. It may be that to preserve this relationship she needs to go out in January sales and buy you some new gear.
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Doesn't help that her work colleagues keep telling you how destructive she is with your things...
Put it this way, if you decide to ditch her, you have two choices: go about town seducing complete munters, or take your chances abroad. If you decide the latter, convice the new bird you still have that MBNA card and you're an good old-fashioned kinda-guy.
World-class stuff Phil!
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brilliant! Best post on here for ages! I would give her the credit card for a while and see if she comes home with anything good that you like and it works well for you two, if the card aint got any credit then you can see how well she irons your shirts and cooks your tea, or even, how good in the sack she feels! But i feel you need to give her some credit on the card and pay the fucker off at the end of the month!