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Title: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: Five Villa Tattoos on April 23, 2016, 12:55:16 PM
Been meaning to write this for some time but now as I wait in the pub prior to another defeat I have finally built up the courage to do so.
I was diagnosed as having PTSD three years ago. after an horrific assault whilst at work. (I'm a prison officer). The details I won't bore you with.
So how do the Villa figure in all this?
Well they're my "old me" time. Away from horrific memories and thoughts, I can just be the old me , prior to my assault. At least what I think the old me was like. Another face in the Holte.
No one judges me and The Holte has become my sanctuary from myself. Even for just 90 minutes. The handshakes when I arrive, from the same old downtrodden faces, a knowing nod and smile from others, the wisecracks, wondering how many we'll lose by,the singing, the passion from us fans. I don't even know most people's names.
On the Holte I'm just a VILLA fan, as I have been ,thanks to my Dad, for over 40 years. Not the broken person I am elsewhere.
As shit as this season has been I'd like to thank you, my fellow Villa fans for being the passionate and proud people you all are. I, at least, appreciate everyone of you from the bottom of my heart.
Thanks for reading and UP THE VILLA.
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: cdbearsfan on April 23, 2016, 01:00:30 PM
Well worth sharing, and brave to do so. Good luck with everything.

And I'm glad at least one of us seems to enjoy the games!
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: Five Villa Tattoos on April 23, 2016, 01:01:45 PM
The game itself, a definite no!! 😊
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: CT on April 23, 2016, 01:02:22 PM
Really brave and honest post. All the best to you FVT.
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: Yossarian on April 23, 2016, 01:04:11 PM
Up The Villa.

Good luck with your journey.
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: Malandro on April 23, 2016, 01:06:51 PM
If you ever need somebody to have a chinwag with - I've been living with PTSD too.

Enjoy the game!
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: markeeeebeeee2005 on April 23, 2016, 01:17:21 PM
Well done mate.

More power to you for the recovery you are making.
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: Chris Jameson on April 23, 2016, 01:24:19 PM
You're amongst friends here, hope there are many better times ahead for you and Villa.
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: Jean Quereue-Quereue on April 23, 2016, 01:27:18 PM
Yes it's a good constant to have in your life.  When I was caring for my mom it was a perfect excuse to escape and have some 'me time' for a couple of hours.  And the point about the crowd is so true, I don't know the name of the guy next to me but we've chatted about how going there helped him after his dad died.
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: GordonCowansisthegreatest on April 23, 2016, 01:29:49 PM
And colleagues, Don't let the b@astards grind you down!
Good luck and all the best.
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: croatian on April 23, 2016, 01:34:28 PM
Good luck Mate,
brave post.

Strange, but good, to think that a place as unremittingly awful as Villa Park this season can be giving some comfort to one of our own.

Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: Ian. on April 23, 2016, 01:41:31 PM
You sound like a very brave person deep down. All the very best for your future recovery. I really hope you enjoy the game today and there some goals to celebrate on the terrace.

UTV
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: VinnieChase84 on April 23, 2016, 01:41:42 PM
UTV mate
Brave post 👍🏻👍🏻
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: pauliewalnuts on April 23, 2016, 01:47:54 PM
What a lovely post - an oasis of cheery humanity in a sea of doom 

Good on you.
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: VillaAlways on April 23, 2016, 02:02:48 PM
Lovely post.

Good luck with your recovery
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: Billy Walker on April 23, 2016, 02:26:42 PM
Good luck to you, my friend.
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: newtonsballs on April 23, 2016, 02:41:08 PM
I really enjoyed your post - thanks for sharing it with us all.
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: tony scott on April 23, 2016, 02:44:00 PM
Good luck to you, I'm glad the Villa a doing something positive for you.
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: cdward on April 23, 2016, 04:01:34 PM
Good on you mate for posting that.
Let's hope there are good times ahead for all of us.
Good luck, stay strong. UTV
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: Rudy Can't Fail on April 23, 2016, 05:19:15 PM
What a great post. As a (supposed) Villa fan once said, "we're all in this together". It's strange how we often find strength and support in the most unlikely of places.

The best of luck to you, VFT.

Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: Percy McCarthy on April 23, 2016, 05:28:18 PM
Lovely post. Good luck.
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: frank black on April 23, 2016, 05:35:59 PM
Thanks for sharing and all the best. Best part about going is the banter, footballers on show would be nice mind.

UTV

Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: Stu82 on April 23, 2016, 07:19:09 PM
Best wishes to you FVT
UTV
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: in exile on April 23, 2016, 07:30:53 PM
FVT - really brave post.
Keep positive buddy, I know it must be difficult but you are one of the family and we look after our own so you are never alone.

Take care
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: oswald funkletrumpet on April 23, 2016, 07:56:50 PM
top man

its what makes us who we are, we didnt choose we were chosen
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: Witton Warrior on April 23, 2016, 08:04:51 PM
Best of luck FVT - I work with people experiencing PTSD and will say that with the right help there is an end to it - I hope you find it quickly.
I also recognise Villa as a refuge - when I was in my teens (mid-70's) life was a little complicated at home and in school, it was Villa and the Holte faithful that gave me stability and something positive (hard to recognise that these days) I desperately needed. There are many stories around the Villa that are never told about how they positively change people's lives - it is more important than the football to be honest.
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: Zouch Villa on April 23, 2016, 08:06:38 PM
Thanks for sharing FVT, and I wish you all the best in your recovery. 

Whilst by no means comparable, I had a difficult second half of last year which resulted in suffering with post concussion and depression. Although I thought I was making progress, I was continuously being told by friends and family that my personality was very different, making me question myself even more.  However, through this time Saturday afternoons at the Villa with my youngest son allowed me to express happiness (infrequently), anger, frustration and despair, yet nonetheless feel normal for doing so.

Keep going and remember your Villa family will always be here for you.
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: Ian. on April 23, 2016, 08:14:03 PM
Nice post ZV.
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: Five Villa Tattoos on April 23, 2016, 09:04:10 PM
Just got back. Would just like to thank everyone who has replied. It has been very touching to say the least.
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: Matt C on April 23, 2016, 09:14:50 PM
All the very best with your recovery, FVT.
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: West Derby Villan on April 23, 2016, 09:16:23 PM
Yeah brave post FTV, all the best with your recovery
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: john e on April 23, 2016, 10:20:41 PM
uplifting post of the year, all the best to you
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: clash city rocker on April 23, 2016, 10:25:43 PM
Brave post and good luck..I still go to the park with my daughter and although the football is shit  I still enjoy the laughs and the banter. It does take you away from ordinary life.  I call it my Alice in wonderland 90 minutes.
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: themossman on April 23, 2016, 11:11:25 PM
Good on you mate. Best of luck.
Title: Re: The Villa and my PTSD
Post by: Salsa Party Animal on April 24, 2016, 07:22:45 AM
Glad we can help and good luck and let hope for full recovery for you and the useless football team.
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